Finding you

I committed 6 years of my life to the current city and state that I live in, all in pursuit of my graduate degree and specialization.  Away from family and the comforts of friends and even region of country, I have been blessed to easily make new and good friends.  I didn't plan to make new friends.  I certainly didn't think that my friendships would get better or richer than the ones I grew up with.  But I do have people in my life who I have known for fewer years and who feel like family to me.  I just met them, bonded with them, grew with them, and that's it.

I'm in the midst of preparing my next career step and I'll be leaving this place that's been home for the past 6 years.  I don't worry about missing my friends or losing them or making new ones.  I feel quite secure in those relationships, and in the stability of those ties.  What does concern me, recently, is finding my future husband, and knowing that where I go next will influence me meeting him.

My friend from childhood recently emailed to say that she could care less about her love-life right now and that she is in hot pursuit of her career as a graphic designer/ artist / advertising specialist.  She just got out of a long-term relationship with a man who, interestingly enough, is also a womanizer.  What's worse is that he was married, and the biggest liar you can possibly imagine.  So it might have been her anger talking when she swore of men.  But then again, I think she's right when she said that meeting your partner shouldn't be something we fret over.  It's like... hitting puberty.  You don't know what exact moment it will happen, and you really can't plan when or how it will unfold, but it will.  It simply will happen... inevitably.

So, I remind myself of this statement during my job-search these days.  And I let myself look at positions in places that I am almost certain no one will want to go.  Definitely not where I imagine my future husband to be.

So, future husband, just so you know, I'm not going to try to find you anymore. Or put myself in locations that are convenient for you to see/meet.  I'm just gonna do my thing and if you come my way, then cool beans.  And if you don't, well then, I'm falling in love anyways and I'll have a wonderful marriage and amazing kids. It's gonna happen sometime. I just don't know yet, who.